Would trusting other people make you more peaceful?

Superman starts by trusting Lois

In the most recent Superman movie, Man of Steel (2013), Superman first do not know if he can or should trust the humans and/or the aliens. Later on he realizes that his own people, the aliens, wants to dominate Earth and eradicate the humans to restore their “planet” Krypton. So Superman decides to try to be the bridge between both of these races since he is now an earthling and at the same time an alien. The aliens though refuses to share Earth with the humans and the trust in Supermans own race diminishes with their choice. Also at first the military power of USA is also unwilling to trust Superman and soon they realize that trusting Superman is easier than to fight him.

Superman - S stands for HOPE

Superman - S stands for HOPE

So what’s my point here? Well, trusting can either be easy and a choice or something that you have to earn from others. And in my point of view Superman had no reason to trust the humans, though he chooses to not only trust them but of course also to hope they would change and also to give them hope. And further more Superman just took the easy way of trusting instead of waiting for the humans to earn his trust.

That was trusting others, now over to trusting yourself. If you trust you, you never have to prove it, you never have to justify it and you never have to explain it to anyone. Would you be willing to have this peace? Trusting you is a peaceful place. Are you willing to be so different that you don’t have that doubt in you? How many people do you know that totally trust themselves?

Are you a truth (true) seeker? And if so, are you also receiving people that aggressively ask about what is true for you, or are you actually avoiding and resisting them like the plague? I.e. from my point of view you have 3 choices; You can either resist and react to people, you can align and agree with people OR you can just come from an interesting point of view people have their point of view. In the last example you neither align and agree nor are you resisting and reacting to them. That is you are not with them or against them, you are just neutral in regards to them.

What if to be able to be against someone or something you have to put energy into a point of view?  And in so doing you give the people energy that are either for or against the point of view you are holding on to.  Because if you did not have an energy that were opposed to their energy, would they sooner or later run out of steam?  In my point of view, YES.  So, is war and peace different?  Not really.  If someone forcefully go with and for a point of view for peace, they are probably 100% against war.  So, does fighting for peace really work?  I.e. does it work to go to war to create peace?  Yes, but only if you have NO POINT OF VIEW about it.  How many people do you know that fight for peace or fight to have their war for whatever reason actually have NO POINT OF VIEW about it?  So, if you really do not have a point of view about it do you really have to go to war for or against it?

Or to take this from a slightly different point of view…  Do you have children that are opposing your wishes?  And will they keep opposing you?  Probably.  What would happen if you stopped having a point of view about what they should or should not be or do?  Could this potentially create the peace you and your children are looking for?  (PS.  If you have no children, maybe you can just look at your relationship with your parents.)

And have you met these other true/truth seekers that you think are assholes? Who is really the asshole? Is it the person that wanna show you the truth or you that judge the other person to be an asshole? How much longer are you going to resist and react to these people that are actually willing to empower you A LOT MORE THAN YOU ARE EMPOWERING YOURSELF? Is NOW the time to change what is not working for you?

Of course when someone comes up to and just wanna give you THEIR truth most people will resist or react to this. There are other ways to act as a true seeker. A true seeker that have no point of view if other people knows what is true or not will not force their point of view on others. Such a true seeker will just ask questions that other people can and are willing to hear. I.e. if you ask a question that other people can hear they start to trust you. If you ask people a question that they are not willing to hear they start to distrust you. Which “way” do you know is the easier way? NEW TOOL! How do you know if they can hear what you can say? Start by asking yourself a question; Can he or she hear what I say without resisting/reacting or aligning/agreeing? Then wait for the awareness if they can or not.

Back to the original idea of this article. Would trusting other people make you more peaceful? Would trusting other people create more World Peace? Yes and no. No (choice 1a) if your trust looks like this: I trust my brother, he would never dishonor me, say something bad to me or in any way or form hurt me.
Yes (choice 1b) if your trust looks like this: I trust my brother to be capable of dishonoring me, say bad things to me and in worst case scenario hurt me emotionally or physically. NOTE… I wrote capable of. Can you honestly say that anyone that you trust/trusted do not judge you or stab you in the back?

Let me give you an example. I trusted my mother until maybe 7 years ago. It was at some time then I realized that she might not have my best interest at heart. She might have HER best interest at heart for ME. In other words, what SHE believes is right for me, not what I know is best for me.

This showed up the other day like this; She called me on the phone and started asking me if I had been on national TV naked? And I responded yes I have. And to make a long story short she made me wrong for this choice and stated that it is wrong to be naked in front of a public even if you get paid or not. Well what my mother resists to realize is that if she thinks it is bad or wrong to be naked in public then she is making nudity wrong for everyone including her own body. I.e. she is judging her body as well as mine being naked. What can she possibly benefit from this? Possibly that she would hate being wrong and thinks she has to be right. All of which comes from a judgmental place. “Does judgment create peace or conflict?” is my question to you. If no person had any point of view would it be wrong to be naked in public? No. Even if you and a majority of people have the point of view it is wrong, is it really wrong? Or is it just what is?

So in my interesting point of view my mother is stabbing me in my back with her judgments of what is wrong or what is not right. She not only judges me (and I can choose to be affected by this or not), but she is also chocked and devastated that her son is doing this. I.e. she first not only judges her own body she is also going into drama and trauma about it, that is judging the situation a second time. What would change this? What would work for you?

Gratitude / Allowance OR Judgment / Wrong / Not right?

Gratitude / Allowance OR Judgment / Wrong / Not right?

Did my mother empower me or dis-empower me in my choice? She totally invalidated my choice and did her best to give me her fixed point of view. In my point of view this is not empowering someone. As a parent or good friend, will you empower others by being in total allowance and asking empowering questions or dis-empower others by giving them your judgment and fixed point of view? My mother could have empowered me by asking questions like; Aha, so did this make you trust yourself more? What did you learn about yourself, did you get any awareness? How can you now use this to your advantage? But, you know what? Thanks to my mother this article was written. And I also got to look at this from another point of view. And I started to open up my potency to change my own judgments about sex, sexuality and sexualness. How does it get any better than this? What contribution to your life, living and reality can your family members be? It’s time to look at what people actually contribute to you, and not only what you think they are trying to stop you to be or do.

So in this case trusting my mother would be to know that she is capable of stabbing me in the back with her judgments, not necessarily a real dagger. So who do you really wanna trust? You or others? I am choosing to trust myself more and more. I am not fully there yet. I was choosing 1a previously and now I have realized that choosing 1b works so much better and easier for me. What would work for you? Do you know of any family fights where the sisters or brothers are totally shutting their siblings out of their dead mother or fathers heritage? If you know of any such fight, then my advice to you is really to consider if choice 1a will continue to work for you.

So what if peace comes from choice 1b and not 1a? What if world peace cannot be obtained as long as people judge each other? Would trusting other people really make you more peaceful? Am I right? Of course not. I am neither right nor wrong. I am just having my interesting point of view. Do you wanna live your life from interesting point of view or from fixed point of view? YOUR CHOICE. YOUR LIVING.

How do you feel after you have had sex?

For me it is always relaxing.  Do you know this kind of relaxation where you wanna fall asleep directly?  Well, what if this tiredness that some of you perceive is not really being tired, but just really really relaxed?  Your body is shaking and, what if you have misidentified and misapplied vibrantly alive as being tired?  Since you rarely go into being alive you think it is something else.  True or false?

Yes, I might be one of the fortunate.  I choose nice girls that will not challenge me into something I do not want.  Who do you choose?  Is it someone (somebody) that is nurturing for you and your body?  Or is it someone with lots of money?  Or someone with good looks and no sense of what is great for you and your body?  Did you know that some bodies will be more compatible with your body than others?  I am not talking about colors or sizes now, or even male or female bodies.  Have you ever met a man or a woman and even if they were not really nice, maybe even assholes, their bodies gave you a pleasant surprise?  It was not the sexual positions that made it.  It was not the looks of the person.  It was not even the attraction to their personal attitudes.  Their body was enjoying yours as much as your body was enjoying theirs.  Yes, I am not assuming that you are your body.  What do I mean by that?  Since I perceive that we can live lifetime after lifetime with different body types (i.e. bodies), then I do not claim that the body is me.  What if the body has its own points of view?

Can you even enjoy sex with an ugly person, a person of the wrong cultural background, a person with wrong size, a person without money, etc?  What would happen if you had no points of view about looks, cultural background, size or money?  Could you actually like and love having sex with a body (person) you do not even know?

NEW TOOL!!!  Here is an exercise for you that might give you chills on the back.  😉  Go out on the street or stay in a café, wherever.  Now take a look around and choose a body randomly.  Old or young, ugly or beautiful, fat or slim, take anyone, JUST DON’T judge the body (because of the person behind the body).  Did you see a young girl?  Well, now ask your body if that body (belonging to the young girl) would be fun and nurturing to play with?  Yes if you perceive a light sensation, no if you perceive a heavy.  Now choose another random body.  Maybe a “normal” male body 1-10 years older or younger than your body.  Continue this exercise till you have realized what kind of energy the body your body would like to play with has, or until you have realized that the looks, size, shape, or even sex does not matter for YOUR body.  It only matters for YOUR points of view.  True or false?  P.S.  did you find an “ugly” old male or female body that your body wanted to play with?  What if your points of view have everything to do with how much fun and caring your body can have?

Inner Yard

If you did not use your 5 senses, what do you perceive about this Inner Yard?

Here is a picture of an inner yard in Malmö, Sweden where I lived.  Can you even perceive if it looks nice, ugly, brown or peaceful?  Well, if you disregard your 5 senses and your judgments, what do you perceive?  It is a knowing, not something you can determine through analyzing, defining, mapping or similar.  When you look at another body, man, woman, boy or girl, can you perceive if this body would be fun and nurturing for you and your body?

Back to the question of what you feel after you have had sex.  If you have practiced the tool above, and maybe even spent time with that body you found, what sensations are you now willing to receive?  Is it more or less sexual?  Did you know that most females have sex to create relationships?  And that most males have relationships to get sex?  If you stepped out of that behavior what would be available for you?  Greater relationships, greater sex or both?

I would also like to look at the peace you do create in relationships.  When you promise your spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend that you are not going to have sex with another person, does it create peace or aggravation?  I think it only creates a sense of false peace that leads to irritation and frustration.  Why?  Well, are you an unlimited or limited being?  I know that you think you are limited.  What do you sense is more true?  That you are actually capable of doing and being anything or that you can only do so much?  And how much sense of peace do you get when someone tells you that you can ONLY have sex with one person?  None, some or a lot?  So, what if peace is connected to ALL your points of view, including those around your choices around sex?  I.e. ESPECIALLY THOSE AROUND SEX.  Hehe, how many times have you actually felt frustrated as hell because you are not getting the “sex” you and your body really are longing for?  What energy, space and consciousness can you and your body be, know, receive and perceive to be, do, have, create and generate the sex you would like to be and have?