For me it is always relaxing. Do you know this kind of relaxation where you wanna fall asleep directly? Well, what if this tiredness that some of you perceive is not really being tired, but just really really relaxed? Your body is shaking and, what if you have misidentified and misapplied vibrantly alive as being tired? Since you rarely go into being alive you think it is something else. True or false?
Yes, I might be one of the fortunate. I choose nice girls that will not challenge me into something I do not want. Who do you choose? Is it someone (somebody) that is nurturing for you and your body? Or is it someone with lots of money? Or someone with good looks and no sense of what is great for you and your body? Did you know that some bodies will be more compatible with your body than others? I am not talking about colors or sizes now, or even male or female bodies. Have you ever met a man or a woman and even if they were not really nice, maybe even assholes, their bodies gave you a pleasant surprise? It was not the sexual positions that made it. It was not the looks of the person. It was not even the attraction to their personal attitudes. Their body was enjoying yours as much as your body was enjoying theirs. Yes, I am not assuming that you are your body. What do I mean by that? Since I perceive that we can live lifetime after lifetime with different body types (i.e. bodies), then I do not claim that the body is me. What if the body has its own points of view?
Can you even enjoy sex with an ugly person, a person of the wrong cultural background, a person with wrong size, a person without money, etc? What would happen if you had no points of view about looks, cultural background, size or money? Could you actually like and love having sex with a body (person) you do not even know?
NEW TOOL!!! Here is an exercise for you that might give you chills on the back. 😉 Go out on the street or stay in a café, wherever. Now take a look around and choose a body randomly. Old or young, ugly or beautiful, fat or slim, take anyone, JUST DON’T judge the body (because of the person behind the body). Did you see a young girl? Well, now ask your body if that body (belonging to the young girl) would be fun and nurturing to play with? Yes if you perceive a light sensation, no if you perceive a heavy. Now choose another random body. Maybe a “normal” male body 1-10 years older or younger than your body. Continue this exercise till you have realized what kind of energy the body your body would like to play with has, or until you have realized that the looks, size, shape, or even sex does not matter for YOUR body. It only matters for YOUR points of view. True or false? P.S. did you find an “ugly” old male or female body that your body wanted to play with? What if your points of view have everything to do with how much fun and caring your body can have?
If you did not use your 5 senses, what do you perceive about this Inner Yard?
Here is a picture of an inner yard in Malmö, Sweden where I lived. Can you even perceive if it looks nice, ugly, brown or peaceful? Well, if you disregard your 5 senses and your judgments, what do you perceive? It is a knowing, not something you can determine through analyzing, defining, mapping or similar. When you look at another body, man, woman, boy or girl, can you perceive if this body would be fun and nurturing for you and your body?
Back to the question of what you feel after you have had sex. If you have practiced the tool above, and maybe even spent time with that body you found, what sensations are you now willing to receive? Is it more or less sexual? Did you know that most females have sex to create relationships? And that most males have relationships to get sex? If you stepped out of that behavior what would be available for you? Greater relationships, greater sex or both?
I would also like to look at the peace you do create in relationships. When you promise your spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend that you are not going to have sex with another person, does it create peace or aggravation? I think it only creates a sense of false peace that leads to irritation and frustration. Why? Well, are you an unlimited or limited being? I know that you think you are limited. What do you sense is more true? That you are actually capable of doing and being anything or that you can only do so much? And how much sense of peace do you get when someone tells you that you can ONLY have sex with one person? None, some or a lot? So, what if peace is connected to ALL your points of view, including those around your choices around sex? I.e. ESPECIALLY THOSE AROUND SEX. Hehe, how many times have you actually felt frustrated as hell because you are not getting the “sex” you and your body really are longing for? What energy, space and consciousness can you and your body be, know, receive and perceive to be, do, have, create and generate the sex you would like to be and have?