Would trusting other people make you more peaceful?

Superman starts by trusting Lois

In the most recent Superman movie, Man of Steel (2013), Superman first do not know if he can or should trust the humans and/or the aliens. Later on he realizes that his own people, the aliens, wants to dominate Earth and eradicate the humans to restore their “planet” Krypton. So Superman decides to try to be the bridge between both of these races since he is now an earthling and at the same time an alien. The aliens though refuses to share Earth with the humans and the trust in Supermans own race diminishes with their choice. Also at first the military power of USA is also unwilling to trust Superman and soon they realize that trusting Superman is easier than to fight him.

Superman - S stands for HOPE

Superman - S stands for HOPE

So what’s my point here? Well, trusting can either be easy and a choice or something that you have to earn from others. And in my point of view Superman had no reason to trust the humans, though he chooses to not only trust them but of course also to hope they would change and also to give them hope. And further more Superman just took the easy way of trusting instead of waiting for the humans to earn his trust.

That was trusting others, now over to trusting yourself. If you trust you, you never have to prove it, you never have to justify it and you never have to explain it to anyone. Would you be willing to have this peace? Trusting you is a peaceful place. Are you willing to be so different that you don’t have that doubt in you? How many people do you know that totally trust themselves?

Are you a truth (true) seeker? And if so, are you also receiving people that aggressively ask about what is true for you, or are you actually avoiding and resisting them like the plague? I.e. from my point of view you have 3 choices; You can either resist and react to people, you can align and agree with people OR you can just come from an interesting point of view people have their point of view. In the last example you neither align and agree nor are you resisting and reacting to them. That is you are not with them or against them, you are just neutral in regards to them.

What if to be able to be against someone or something you have to put energy into a point of view?  And in so doing you give the people energy that are either for or against the point of view you are holding on to.  Because if you did not have an energy that were opposed to their energy, would they sooner or later run out of steam?  In my point of view, YES.  So, is war and peace different?  Not really.  If someone forcefully go with and for a point of view for peace, they are probably 100% against war.  So, does fighting for peace really work?  I.e. does it work to go to war to create peace?  Yes, but only if you have NO POINT OF VIEW about it.  How many people do you know that fight for peace or fight to have their war for whatever reason actually have NO POINT OF VIEW about it?  So, if you really do not have a point of view about it do you really have to go to war for or against it?

Or to take this from a slightly different point of view…  Do you have children that are opposing your wishes?  And will they keep opposing you?  Probably.  What would happen if you stopped having a point of view about what they should or should not be or do?  Could this potentially create the peace you and your children are looking for?  (PS.  If you have no children, maybe you can just look at your relationship with your parents.)

And have you met these other true/truth seekers that you think are assholes? Who is really the asshole? Is it the person that wanna show you the truth or you that judge the other person to be an asshole? How much longer are you going to resist and react to these people that are actually willing to empower you A LOT MORE THAN YOU ARE EMPOWERING YOURSELF? Is NOW the time to change what is not working for you?

Of course when someone comes up to and just wanna give you THEIR truth most people will resist or react to this. There are other ways to act as a true seeker. A true seeker that have no point of view if other people knows what is true or not will not force their point of view on others. Such a true seeker will just ask questions that other people can and are willing to hear. I.e. if you ask a question that other people can hear they start to trust you. If you ask people a question that they are not willing to hear they start to distrust you. Which “way” do you know is the easier way? NEW TOOL! How do you know if they can hear what you can say? Start by asking yourself a question; Can he or she hear what I say without resisting/reacting or aligning/agreeing? Then wait for the awareness if they can or not.

Back to the original idea of this article. Would trusting other people make you more peaceful? Would trusting other people create more World Peace? Yes and no. No (choice 1a) if your trust looks like this: I trust my brother, he would never dishonor me, say something bad to me or in any way or form hurt me.
Yes (choice 1b) if your trust looks like this: I trust my brother to be capable of dishonoring me, say bad things to me and in worst case scenario hurt me emotionally or physically. NOTE… I wrote capable of. Can you honestly say that anyone that you trust/trusted do not judge you or stab you in the back?

Let me give you an example. I trusted my mother until maybe 7 years ago. It was at some time then I realized that she might not have my best interest at heart. She might have HER best interest at heart for ME. In other words, what SHE believes is right for me, not what I know is best for me.

This showed up the other day like this; She called me on the phone and started asking me if I had been on national TV naked? And I responded yes I have. And to make a long story short she made me wrong for this choice and stated that it is wrong to be naked in front of a public even if you get paid or not. Well what my mother resists to realize is that if she thinks it is bad or wrong to be naked in public then she is making nudity wrong for everyone including her own body. I.e. she is judging her body as well as mine being naked. What can she possibly benefit from this? Possibly that she would hate being wrong and thinks she has to be right. All of which comes from a judgmental place. “Does judgment create peace or conflict?” is my question to you. If no person had any point of view would it be wrong to be naked in public? No. Even if you and a majority of people have the point of view it is wrong, is it really wrong? Or is it just what is?

So in my interesting point of view my mother is stabbing me in my back with her judgments of what is wrong or what is not right. She not only judges me (and I can choose to be affected by this or not), but she is also chocked and devastated that her son is doing this. I.e. she first not only judges her own body she is also going into drama and trauma about it, that is judging the situation a second time. What would change this? What would work for you?

Gratitude / Allowance OR Judgment / Wrong / Not right?

Gratitude / Allowance OR Judgment / Wrong / Not right?

Did my mother empower me or dis-empower me in my choice? She totally invalidated my choice and did her best to give me her fixed point of view. In my point of view this is not empowering someone. As a parent or good friend, will you empower others by being in total allowance and asking empowering questions or dis-empower others by giving them your judgment and fixed point of view? My mother could have empowered me by asking questions like; Aha, so did this make you trust yourself more? What did you learn about yourself, did you get any awareness? How can you now use this to your advantage? But, you know what? Thanks to my mother this article was written. And I also got to look at this from another point of view. And I started to open up my potency to change my own judgments about sex, sexuality and sexualness. How does it get any better than this? What contribution to your life, living and reality can your family members be? It’s time to look at what people actually contribute to you, and not only what you think they are trying to stop you to be or do.

So in this case trusting my mother would be to know that she is capable of stabbing me in the back with her judgments, not necessarily a real dagger. So who do you really wanna trust? You or others? I am choosing to trust myself more and more. I am not fully there yet. I was choosing 1a previously and now I have realized that choosing 1b works so much better and easier for me. What would work for you? Do you know of any family fights where the sisters or brothers are totally shutting their siblings out of their dead mother or fathers heritage? If you know of any such fight, then my advice to you is really to consider if choice 1a will continue to work for you.

So what if peace comes from choice 1b and not 1a? What if world peace cannot be obtained as long as people judge each other? Would trusting other people really make you more peaceful? Am I right? Of course not. I am neither right nor wrong. I am just having my interesting point of view. Do you wanna live your life from interesting point of view or from fixed point of view? YOUR CHOICE. YOUR LIVING.

Is fear distracting you from being you?

Fear, sadness and anger are 3 of the most common ways to distract ourselves from being everything we can be in our daily living.  So, is fear distracting you from what you can choose every day?  And in what areas of your life/living do you perceive fear?  You will probably think, aha, interesting question, but what does he mean by perceiving the fear?  Does fear not belong to me?  Who does it belong to if it does not belong to me?

Before getting on with an example I would like to have a look at the word ‘fear’.  (reference: http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/fear)

  1. a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid. Synonyms: foreboding, apprehension, consternation, dismay, dread, terror, fright, panic, horror, trepidation, qualm. Antonyms: courage, security, calm, intrepidity.
  2. a specific instance of or propensity for such a feeling: an abnormal fear of heights. Synonyms: phobia, aversion; bête noire, bogy, bogey, bugbear. Antonyms: liking, fondness, penchant, predilection.
  3. concern or anxiety; solicitude: a fear for someone’s safety.
  4. reverential awe, especially toward God: the fear of God. Synonyms: awe, respect, reverence, veneration.
  5. something that causes feelings of dread or apprehension; something a person is afraid of: Cancer is a common fear.
  6. anticipation of the possibility that something unpleasant will occur: Having grown up during the Great Depression, he had a constant fear of running out of money.

Special Note!!  Fear is an emotion according to the dictionary, and I know most of you knew that.  At the same time, the dictionary is stating that there is a tendency of creating a feeling in the body due to heights for instance.  Though, I believe the emotion comes before the feeling, nevertheless maybe we do not have to make a distinction of them.  It is either an emotion, a feeling or both.

Ok, now, please give me a moment of giving an example.  You were probably brought up the first few years by your parents?  I will assume it is a yes to that question, as most people had one or both of the parents around.  Let me now assume that your parents had at least one area of their lives where they did not have ease, whether it is money, relationships, sex, business or whatever.  My question is now, can you recall if you have a similar problem in any of these areas just like one or both of your parents?  Just for the sake of this exercise I will assume you will say, yes, or yes maybe.  So, what if this “problem” is the same as your parent/parents has?  Can you now see any connection, resemblance between yours and theirs?  So, now comes the shocking possibility.  What if this problem you have in mind actually IS the same problem as theirs and that it does not belong to you?  What if this problem originated from one or both of your parents and you were so perceptive of their problem that you now perceive it, and bought it as yours?

Wow, is that actually possible you might ask yourself?  What if all my “issues” does not belong to me?  WOOOOW, is that an eye opener?  Well, what if this is not only true but also a reality YOU can now choose?

So, let’s assume your parent/parents had a fear of not having enough money, or your parent/parents had a fear of being left alone, or your parent/parents had a fear of hurting someone else’s feelings, or your parent/parents had a fear of not getting enough clients in their business.  Now, does any bell ring when I write this?  Is this the same as you perceive in your life?  I would bet 50 dollars you have, not all of the examples, but at least one.  There are so many things we humans have in common, IF we just sit down and dare have an honest look at what is going on for us.

Ok, what more can I share about fear with you?  Well, have you ever walked into a room where you could perceive that almost everyone were sad, i.e. crying or something, even if you did not see their faces?  If it was not sadness, was it joy or something else?  Anyway, most of us have experienced this “event” where several people are sharing the same emotion.  How is that possible?  Well, if you have followed me all the way to this line, then can you just recall my story about your parent/parents?  Most of us have a capacity with a lot of things.  One of my capacities is to pull death out of people.  My dearest friend has the capacity to pull anger out of people.  What is yours?

So, if you could perceive your parent/parents “issues”, why can you not perceive the emotion of sadness in a group full of people during a funeral?  Well, guess what?  YOU CAN PERCEIVE EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE, ALL THE TIME!  Does it ring true or false?????  If you think it is bullshit, maybe you should consider reading someone else’s articles.  But if you still doubt, and it might be true, or you even know it is true, what can this create in your life?  If you can perceive everything and everyone, does the idea of oneness all of a sudden become more possible?  Let me help you answer that…. YES, OF COURSE.  In oneness you know, receive and perceive what everyone is doing or being all the time.  Do you get excited by this reality?  Someone else than you believe or know oneness is true?  How does it get any better than that?

Well, let’s get back to business here.  Now, you probably believe fear can come from one of your parents.  So, how can you change this (i.e. fear) or create a different reality?  “Ask and you shall receive”, this is a true quote from the bible.  By asking, “Who does this belong to?”, you will create a space in your universe for a change or a different possibility to be created.  NEW TOOL!!  What would happen if you used “Ask and you shall receive” for a longer period, i.e. 3 months?  And as you now know from this article it can belong to your parents, though it can also belong to anyone, so please do not come to any conclusions.  Some follow-up questions could be, “Does it belong to someone else?”, “Does it belong to me?” or “Does it belong to something else?”.  Whatever is perceived as or feels light is true, and whatever is perceived as or feels heavy is false.  If you perceive it (i.e. fear) belongs to someone or something else, then you can just – Return it to sender.  If you perceive it (i.e. fear) belongs to you, then you can just Destroy and Uncreate it and let it go.

NEW TOOL!!  For whatever thoughts, feelings or emotions that arise in your universe, ask this question, “Who does it belong to?”.  And then go through the follow-up steps to find out if you perceive it as true or false if it belongs to you, someone else or something else.  Unless you already know what is true for you.  Using this question “Who does it belong to?” in a period of 3 days, you will notice that nothing belongs to you, and you will have no thoughts, feelings or emotions on the third day.  How does it get any better than that?  But please DO NOT USE THIS TOOL!  It can seriously damage your life!  Erhmmm, sorry I could not help it.  I am kidding; please use this tool if you would like to create a greater life and living.

As I wrote in my previous article I mentioned that any feeling, thought or emotion would take you out of a peaceful state.  Will you continue to buy thoughts, feelings or emotions as yours?  Or will you actually start opening up space for more ease and joy to come into your life by asking these questions?  What if peace will be created by you sending away all your thoughts, feelings or emotions to the sender, including the good ones?  Is that a priority you could have as a reality in your life?

Good Luck!