Is fear distracting you from being you?

Fear, sadness and anger are 3 of the most common ways to distract ourselves from being everything we can be in our daily living.  So, is fear distracting you from what you can choose every day?  And in what areas of your life/living do you perceive fear?  You will probably think, aha, interesting question, but what does he mean by perceiving the fear?  Does fear not belong to me?  Who does it belong to if it does not belong to me?

Before getting on with an example I would like to have a look at the word ‘fear’.  (reference: http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/fear)

  1. a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid. Synonyms: foreboding, apprehension, consternation, dismay, dread, terror, fright, panic, horror, trepidation, qualm. Antonyms: courage, security, calm, intrepidity.
  2. a specific instance of or propensity for such a feeling: an abnormal fear of heights. Synonyms: phobia, aversion; bête noire, bogy, bogey, bugbear. Antonyms: liking, fondness, penchant, predilection.
  3. concern or anxiety; solicitude: a fear for someone’s safety.
  4. reverential awe, especially toward God: the fear of God. Synonyms: awe, respect, reverence, veneration.
  5. something that causes feelings of dread or apprehension; something a person is afraid of: Cancer is a common fear.
  6. anticipation of the possibility that something unpleasant will occur: Having grown up during the Great Depression, he had a constant fear of running out of money.

Special Note!!  Fear is an emotion according to the dictionary, and I know most of you knew that.  At the same time, the dictionary is stating that there is a tendency of creating a feeling in the body due to heights for instance.  Though, I believe the emotion comes before the feeling, nevertheless maybe we do not have to make a distinction of them.  It is either an emotion, a feeling or both.

Ok, now, please give me a moment of giving an example.  You were probably brought up the first few years by your parents?  I will assume it is a yes to that question, as most people had one or both of the parents around.  Let me now assume that your parents had at least one area of their lives where they did not have ease, whether it is money, relationships, sex, business or whatever.  My question is now, can you recall if you have a similar problem in any of these areas just like one or both of your parents?  Just for the sake of this exercise I will assume you will say, yes, or yes maybe.  So, what if this “problem” is the same as your parent/parents has?  Can you now see any connection, resemblance between yours and theirs?  So, now comes the shocking possibility.  What if this problem you have in mind actually IS the same problem as theirs and that it does not belong to you?  What if this problem originated from one or both of your parents and you were so perceptive of their problem that you now perceive it, and bought it as yours?

Wow, is that actually possible you might ask yourself?  What if all my “issues” does not belong to me?  WOOOOW, is that an eye opener?  Well, what if this is not only true but also a reality YOU can now choose?

So, let’s assume your parent/parents had a fear of not having enough money, or your parent/parents had a fear of being left alone, or your parent/parents had a fear of hurting someone else’s feelings, or your parent/parents had a fear of not getting enough clients in their business.  Now, does any bell ring when I write this?  Is this the same as you perceive in your life?  I would bet 50 dollars you have, not all of the examples, but at least one.  There are so many things we humans have in common, IF we just sit down and dare have an honest look at what is going on for us.

Ok, what more can I share about fear with you?  Well, have you ever walked into a room where you could perceive that almost everyone were sad, i.e. crying or something, even if you did not see their faces?  If it was not sadness, was it joy or something else?  Anyway, most of us have experienced this “event” where several people are sharing the same emotion.  How is that possible?  Well, if you have followed me all the way to this line, then can you just recall my story about your parent/parents?  Most of us have a capacity with a lot of things.  One of my capacities is to pull death out of people.  My dearest friend has the capacity to pull anger out of people.  What is yours?

So, if you could perceive your parent/parents “issues”, why can you not perceive the emotion of sadness in a group full of people during a funeral?  Well, guess what?  YOU CAN PERCEIVE EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE, ALL THE TIME!  Does it ring true or false?????  If you think it is bullshit, maybe you should consider reading someone else’s articles.  But if you still doubt, and it might be true, or you even know it is true, what can this create in your life?  If you can perceive everything and everyone, does the idea of oneness all of a sudden become more possible?  Let me help you answer that…. YES, OF COURSE.  In oneness you know, receive and perceive what everyone is doing or being all the time.  Do you get excited by this reality?  Someone else than you believe or know oneness is true?  How does it get any better than that?

Well, let’s get back to business here.  Now, you probably believe fear can come from one of your parents.  So, how can you change this (i.e. fear) or create a different reality?  “Ask and you shall receive”, this is a true quote from the bible.  By asking, “Who does this belong to?”, you will create a space in your universe for a change or a different possibility to be created.  NEW TOOL!!  What would happen if you used “Ask and you shall receive” for a longer period, i.e. 3 months?  And as you now know from this article it can belong to your parents, though it can also belong to anyone, so please do not come to any conclusions.  Some follow-up questions could be, “Does it belong to someone else?”, “Does it belong to me?” or “Does it belong to something else?”.  Whatever is perceived as or feels light is true, and whatever is perceived as or feels heavy is false.  If you perceive it (i.e. fear) belongs to someone or something else, then you can just – Return it to sender.  If you perceive it (i.e. fear) belongs to you, then you can just Destroy and Uncreate it and let it go.

NEW TOOL!!  For whatever thoughts, feelings or emotions that arise in your universe, ask this question, “Who does it belong to?”.  And then go through the follow-up steps to find out if you perceive it as true or false if it belongs to you, someone else or something else.  Unless you already know what is true for you.  Using this question “Who does it belong to?” in a period of 3 days, you will notice that nothing belongs to you, and you will have no thoughts, feelings or emotions on the third day.  How does it get any better than that?  But please DO NOT USE THIS TOOL!  It can seriously damage your life!  Erhmmm, sorry I could not help it.  I am kidding; please use this tool if you would like to create a greater life and living.

As I wrote in my previous article I mentioned that any feeling, thought or emotion would take you out of a peaceful state.  Will you continue to buy thoughts, feelings or emotions as yours?  Or will you actually start opening up space for more ease and joy to come into your life by asking these questions?  What if peace will be created by you sending away all your thoughts, feelings or emotions to the sender, including the good ones?  Is that a priority you could have as a reality in your life?

Good Luck!

What is Peace?

Well, first of all, according to dictionaries (reference: http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/peace), what does the word mean?

  1. the normal, nonwarring condition of a nation, group of nations, or the world.
  2. ( often initial capital letter ) an agreement or treaty between warring or antagonistic nations, groups, etc., to end hostilities and abstain from further fighting or antagonism: the Peace of Ryswick.
  3. a state of mutual harmony between people or groups, especially in personal relations: Try to live in peace with your neighbors.
  4. the normal freedom from civil commotion and violence of a community; public order and security: He was arrested for being drunk and disturbing the peace.
  5. cessation of or freedom from any strife or dissension.
  6. freedom of the mind from annoyance, distraction, anxiety, an obsession, etc.; tranquillity; serenity.
  7. a state of tranquility or serenity: May he rest in peace.
  8. a state or condition conducive to, proceeding from, or characterized by tranquillity: the peace of a mountain resort.
  9. Silence, stillness

 

In the above list of definitions of peace number 6 (the bolded and underlined) is the most interesting to me.  When you are not perceiving any stress (body feels tension), hatreds (emotion), anxieties (thought or emotion), obsessions (thoughts or feelings) etc, i.e. thoughts, feelings or emotions, then you have entered into a peaceful state.  Or in other words (my words), the absence of thoughts, feelings or emotions can create a state of presence, joy, bliss and peace.

What is peace for you?